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Things with Us– are good!
 
  • I finished my job on Thursday evening. They’re on holiday, then I’m going on holiday, then I’m going to university. I don’t feel anything much yet, since they’ve been on holiday before- I wouldn’t be looking after them anyway. It’s when I know they’re back, at home- then I might feel funny!
  • Boyfriend’s job applications are good- but we have to wait almost a month more until we find out anymore. In the mean time- it’s hard to know how to move forward, in conjunction with his parents, with our Canadian plans. But still dreaming about it!
  • He spent the weekend with his friend in Wales. That guy’s nickname is The Axe Murderer. ! He survived. 
  • My sister is experiencing a major loss. I feel so much for her, but I don’t know how to put that into words. My relationship with each family member is tricky in their own ways. I wish I could help her, and know what to say. I wish her peace, and contentment.
  • We subscribed to LoveFilm Instant- and I’ve discovered the wonder that is Vikings (watched the first season in a day) and Nip/Tuck (onto series 2). We’ve also watched a few films together- including last night The Adjustment Bureau. Definitely recommend.
  • We bought a desk! A vintage, lift up, double school desk. I bought it on Friday, and saw it in the flesh/wood  yesterday afternoon, as boyfriend kindly collected it on his way home from Wales. So exciting! Not enjoying spending money now that I’m not earning though. Eek.
  • Last weekend boyfriend and his dad fixed his grandma’s garage roof. It took a long time, and was very tiring. The roof was extremely well built, but parts had worn down over time. It was so kind of them to help her, as it was making her nervous, and I’m very proud.
 
Some Links 
 
Humans of New York some great photographs, and interesting comments from the subjects underneath.
 
 
Family resemblance – some more lovely photographs showing the similarities between siblings or parents and their children. Cover one half to see the differences but when put together you can see only the shared features! 
 
 
‘Real’ Barbie created supposedly with the measurements of an average young american woman. I just stared at it for so long. Imagine if all toys were as real as this! Or mannequins in shops. Or models, for that matter. 
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Ladies

I was reading a book recently, in which one of the characters was saying that by the time she left school in the 70s, it had been made sure that she had learned certain ‘feminine’ skills.

Here are the ones that I can do;

  • sew on a button (just about)
  • bake a cake/anything (My mum would bake to destress I think. Banana cake, applesauce cake, marble cake)
  •  knit (my grandmother taught me as she was getting arthritis, and she wanted to pass it on)
  • arrange flowers (My dad is really keen on doing this. I just fluff them around until I like them)

But ‘woman’ things that I can’t do;

  • darn a sock
  • crochet
  • lay a table with all the cutlery and glasses
  • balance a book on my head?
  • take in a dress

This has led me to consider other ‘gender’ things, in my life;

  • My male employer recently told me, with a serious passion, that I am terrible at cutting bread. He went on to say that his wife is just as bad, and ‘you may as well use your hands!’ My dad also has problems with the way all of his three daughters cut bread. Is this.. a thing? Is this bread sexism, a coincidence, or a little known truth?
  • I also sometimes have problems parking- as in planning out which way to move the wheel to make it go in correctly. Not so much anymore, but it was very hard at the beginning. Is this a scientific thing- my brain is not good at spatial awareness?  Or just something that I happen to sometimes find difficult when in new places, regardless of my gender?
  • Boyfriend is really bad at listening whilst he watches something, or reads something. I don’t have this problem Therefore you could say- he can’t multitask. A man thing, or a coincidence? To be fair, I recently read that this may be true in the home but it’s not true in their working lives- which I agree with.

But there are some things that go against gender, in my life;

  • I’m the one that catches the spiders!

Let me state, that I am firmly of the opinion that anyone can do anything, until proved otherwise. Gender regardless.

I recently came across this article, which says some of the same things but in a far superior way. Please go read; femininism and the new domesticity.

 

Other Related Posts 

1. What Women Want

2. Not Yet

3. Book 

Show and Tell

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The kids love when I do something unexpected. And yes, I’m aware they should be eating vegetables but I don’t decide the menu.

This was an interesting thought. I mean, it’s unlikely they’ll get into power, and even more unlikely they’d be able to implement it but imagine the outcry! I think it’s one of those ideas that sounds fairly reasonable in principle- the long term unemployed should spend their money on food and saving up, not on things that will make them sick.. But you can’t tell people what to spend their money on! They’d just work out a way to swap the cards for real money, and it’d create a strange black market. I don’t know how to fix the problem.

hah! ouch. 7cm long! That’s as long as my index finger!

  • The Baby Bomb, the first episode of a documentary about young new parents.

It made me realise that, just like every other mental health condition, post-natal depression has a lot of stigma attached to it still. It also made me think; I can do it better than that! :) But we’ll keep on waiting- and it’s easy to judge when you’re not doing it yourself!

Fell in love with the stories on this blog, about connecting with your child, and helping them to release pent up emotions and feelings through listening, staying, playing, and limit setting. Love this approach.

  • England has a new emergency number for medical issues; 111. For when it’s less urgent than 999! 
  • It snowed a lot (by English standards). WHEN WILL IT END? I think it’s the lack of sun I mind more than the snow. Relentlessly grey, every day.
  • Last Sunday in London I beat everybody in my family at bowling , by a lot. Who knew I was so awesome! (Me)
  • Boyfriend’s had a really tough week at work so send vibes of support, and I’m about to start full days over the Easter holidays- eek!
  • I blogged about Waiting for the Future and Women

Just made this banana loaf cake;

banana bread

 

Anyone else want to show and tell about their week?

What Women Want

I saw this on Pinterest, and I don’t think I agree. I don’t like Starbucks, naps, Disney movies, yoga pants, wine, or girl’s night. For simplicity, that means I do like compliments, cuddling, bubble baths, and (online, window) shopping. But why are those things restricted to women, not just people? I know plenty of males who enjoy many of those things. And why is the background pink- is that really necessary? I know it’s just an e-card, but it wouldn’t be one if people didn’t accept that women are like this, and men are like that, and ‘never the twain shall meet’.

The general jist of the card seems to be saying, ‘in order to understand me you must only know the things that I like and then provide them for me’. If this about understanding someone then where is love, friendship, family, intellectual stimulation, laughter, work, exercise?  It’s another example of creating a quite superficial and perhaps false stereotype of what women are, and what they like. In some ways, it feels like it says- ‘if you are a woman and you do not identify with or like these things then you are not normal because I am telling you this is what women like’. It’s just the next step on from what teenage girls are repeatedly told to like, and be like. But strangely, it’s not that far on from childhood either; naps? Disney movies? It’s a bit.. infatilising. In addition, it’s very commercial; Starbucks, Disney, and shopping?

It just made me pause for a moment. I’m sure there are many women who DO love all those things, but I’m sure they have other meaningful things in their life too- and each individual is different. That list doesn’t sum anybody up, let alone women in general.